During my Vegas Recuperation Week, I lost a friend. Don’t worry. Not in the dearly departed “this is for my homies” way; more so in the “you pissed me off so we can't play together no more” kind of way. While I don’t care to dwell on the drama of it all (not even here on my blog), there are a few things I’ve learned about me in the process.
For one, if someone’s view of me is so far removed from the person I strive to be, there is no reason for us to be friends. Not to say I’m a slice of walking perfection. I recognize my faults and own up to my shortcomings. But when the picture someone paints of me is so……lame, I have to remove myself from the situation. Seriously, why would that person even want to be friends with someone they regard so poorly?? If you thought a friend of yours had the attributes of say….a serial killer, would you still be friends with them??? Further more what's more disturbing: the fact that you would allow your mind to even consider remotely that your friend - someone you allow into your life- is a serial killer or that you are indeed friends with someone who has the propensity for serial killing??
For the record I wish this "friend" (scratch that person) no ill will. The memories shared over the years will be treasured. It’s unfortunate it came to this parting in this way but as my Guy Guru pointed out: “Sometimes you have to clear your roster in order to make room on the bench.” or some shit like that. Y’all know I’m fuzzy on sports analogies. Still doesn’t make me a serial killer, maybe a cereal killer though.
That’s all.
Sidebar: I would post the video of the song I referenced above but its so damn depressing. If you really want to see it, youtube it. ( I think I just made youtube a verb. like google. hahahahaha)
Transition train wreck.
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For the record, if we fallout, and you post a blog entry like this about me, i'm coming at you son. I'm stalking you via myspace, blogger, and..wait..that's not uncharted territory..
on to Plan B...
As I am sure you've seen this before....
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
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